by Letty Livingston of Debonaire Magazine
Dear Letty,
Do women like when a man is vulgar with them? In my experience, whenever I have been straightforward and expressed my deepest and darkest desires, they have responded well. But are they actually turned off by the lack of class. -Thurston
Dear Thurston,
Yelling vulgar words when stuck in traffic - no doubt - no class. Cursing your head off while at the local bar, watching the game, when the other team scores - unmistakably - classless. But when you are having sex with someone and use vulgar terminology and it gets your partner all heated up, trust me, she is not turned off. If she were, the next thing you would have heard after the vulgar utterance was your apartment door slamming shut and her high heels clacking down the hall toward the elevator.
Using vulgarities in the bedroom is not symptomatic of having a lack class, as perhaps the consistent use of profanity in place of more descriptive words can. (I say can, because I know some really rich, "classy" folks who curse a blue streak.) Individuals from every walk of life will utilize dirty-talk while having sex. Some people really get into it, some can take it or leave it, and others don't like it one bit.
Not every woman is going to enjoy your throwing F-bombs around while having sex or telling her how dirty she is, so test the waters with a few phrases and if she responds positively, as the intensity of the lovemaking builds so can your vulgar vocabulary. If she is not enjoying it, keep your mouth shut and let your hips do the talking. -Letty
Yelling vulgar words when stuck in traffic - no doubt - no class. Cursing your head off while at the local bar, watching the game, when the other team scores - unmistakably - classless. But when you are having sex with someone and use vulgar terminology and it gets your partner all heated up, trust me, she is not turned off. If she were, the next thing you would have heard after the vulgar utterance was your apartment door slamming shut and her high heels clacking down the hall toward the elevator.
Using vulgarities in the bedroom is not symptomatic of having a lack class, as perhaps the consistent use of profanity in place of more descriptive words can. (I say can, because I know some really rich, "classy" folks who curse a blue streak.) Individuals from every walk of life will utilize dirty-talk while having sex. Some people really get into it, some can take it or leave it, and others don't like it one bit.
Not every woman is going to enjoy your throwing F-bombs around while having sex or telling her how dirty she is, so test the waters with a few phrases and if she responds positively, as the intensity of the lovemaking builds so can your vulgar vocabulary. If she is not enjoying it, keep your mouth shut and let your hips do the talking. -Letty
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