no girl is going to see your face if you walk into the bar with your
head down. I am not going to lie, the better looking you are, the
easier most things in life are. But I can tell you, the biggest players
I know aren`t the richest or the best looking, they`re confident,
smooth, and know how to read a woman. Here are a few tips that I picked
up along the way:
Why Eye Contact is Important
No matter how good looking you are, how much money you have, what reality TV show you`ve been on or who your father is - I have never approached or been approached by a woman who hasn`t eyed me down several times before a formal introduction. Often my friends insist on talking to a group of girls - I refuse because I can tell they have no interest in us. Have I missed out on many great women because of this theory? Probably. But I can promise you that a girl who is staring you down is interested in something about you.
Don`t Be Too Eager
Bad idea. Women know that the only reason you went out tonight is because you haven`t gotten laid in months. Desperation is a stinky cologne.
Forget the Cheesy Pickup Lines
No self-respecting woman has ever responded to "Just like I thought, made in heaven." Women will view corny pickup lines as a fraternity hazing prank that you are being forced into - lest you get paddled that evening.
Talk Using Body Language
Body language is very important. Stand tall, shoulders and back upright. When shaking a woman`s hand be firm - nothing is worse than a limp handshake. Women correlate a man`s handshake to a man`s potency; inject a little Viagra into that shake.
Gently Insult Her Ego
When people go out, especially women, they are using their sex appeal to get noticed. Most guys are fast to compliment a woman because they want to get laid. Nevertheless, if you`re the guy in the group who stands back, and isn`t aggressive, maybe you`ll come off a little distant. And that`s how you`re going to play with her ego a little bit.
"How come he doesn`t want me?" "Why isn`t he approaching me?" This is going to make her want you more. This isn`t fool proof, and if you never introduce yourself, you are guaranteed to fail - but never underestimate playing into women`s insecurities. All humans have very similar emotions, no one likes rejection and everyone likes attention.
Don`t Buy Her a Drink
If a girl is into you, she will talk to you regardless of whether you buy her a drink or not. At best, buying her a drink guarantees a few minutes of small talk. If you`re looking for more, and she seems interested in you, let some stiff buy the drink, eat up his 5 minutes, and then you can move in.
Choose Wing Men Carefully
If you`re a little shy, having a wing man is great idea. The guy that isn`t afraid to talk to anyone is a must for breaking the ice. Just make sure he isn`t:
- amazingly better looking than you
- more than 4 inches taller
- built like an Adonis
- a billionaire
- a movie star
- or someone that every girl will have no choice but to lust after and won`t even care or notice your existence because of his presence
Get Right to the Point
I once had a 35-year-old nurse approach me while I was djing (I was 22 at the time). She walked over to me, looked me up and down and then proceeded to ask me "what my deal was" (translation, she`s interested.) I gave her a very cold reply.
She asked me if I could recommend a club where she good find a real man - that these banker wannabe`s in their popped polos weren`t doing it for her, (translation, she wants me to take her home, but to be assertive about it). I proceeded to tell her she wasn`t leaving, to cut the crap because I knew damn well that she wanted to go to bed with me. Of course she got defensive and told me I was full of myself (the test) - but ultimately, she proved me right.
Use the above method with caution: Saying the wrong thing to a woman, especially something vulgar, and you may find yourself tossed right out of the club. If you`re going to be bold, be sure.
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