In a 2001 article in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, Pace University Professor Terence Hines claimed that the G spot is a myth. Although the spot eluded Dr. Hines (we feel sorry for his wife), it need not be for you. The G spot is not really a spot; it is really a ridge of erectile tissue that surrounds the urethra and the para-urethral glands, and stimulating it leads to powerful orgasms, often including the ejaculation of copious amounts of fluid in many women. Although G spot is a modern term, coined by a Western gynecologist, it was described in Indian erotic texts written more than a millennium ago.
The G Spot is located in the upper, front part of the vagina, just
behind the pubic bone, about a finger's length inside, and in fact,
using a finger or fingers (not the penis) is the most effective way to
stimulate it.
Before you begin exploring this area, it is important to keep a few things in mind and have a few supplies on hand.
The first rule of thumb (actually fingers) is to take it slow. One of the most common mistakes people make is to start stimulating the G Spot before the woman is sufficiently aroused. Women have as much erectile tissue as men; it is just distributed differently - among the G Spot, the clitoris, the labia and the pelvic floor. It also takes longer to become engorged. Stimulating the G Spot before arousal has created a cushion that will cause the urethra to be pressed directly against the pubic bone. This sensation is irritating at best and can often be quite painful. The best way to avoid any irritation is to give her a lot of external genital massage or oral sex so that she has at least one clitoral orgasm before you begin exploring internally.
It's important have plenty of water- or silicon-based lube within reach. You may also want to place a bath towel under her. Ask her if she is ready before your begin to insert your middle finger (once you've located the G Spot, you may find that stimulating her with two fingers is more effective, but this depends on the individual). When she indicates that she is, gently rest your fingertip on the opening of her vulva and feel if her body is opening and pulling you inward. Follow her direction. Once inside, allow your hand to rest as she takes a few deep breaths; observe her responses, respiratory rate, skin tone, and the texture of the inside of her vagina. Developing the capacity to observe your partner is one of the keys to becoming a better lover, and maintaining your focus is particularly important when stimulating her G Spot.
It is important to note that this area is more responsive to pressure than it is to friction, which is why conventional intercourse is not the best way to stimulate it. Thus, when you begin to explore, you should allow your hand to remain still as you make small movements with your finger. It is best to do this by extending your finger and gradually drawing it toward the palm of your hand. You should discover a ridge that feels more taut and bumpy than the rest of the vagina; when you feel it, you'll have found her G Spot, and the movement of your finger will stimulate it.
You may find that your partner likes a great deal of pressure. If so, you may need to engage your upper arm and shoulder to stimulate her effectively. Again, note that your movement should be up and down and not in and out. It can also help to have her apply pressure just above her pubic bone downward into her abdominal wall. This will sandwich her G spot between your hand and hers; many women this find very pleasurable.
If she encounters sensations she is not accustomed to, it is best stop and allow her to take a few breaths, as you keep your finger stationary. Our brains and nervous systems often need a moment or two to recognize that a new sensation is a pleasurable one.
She may also feel an urge to bear down, as if she has to urinate. This is the muscular motion that accompanies the female ejaculatory response, but it is not urination. She can test this by going to the bathroom beforehand. While it is not clear that all women can produce ejaculate, G Spot stimulation can lead to wonderful, new orgasmic responses and can be a delightful addition to your sexual repertoire.
Before you begin exploring this area, it is important to keep a few things in mind and have a few supplies on hand.
The first rule of thumb (actually fingers) is to take it slow. One of the most common mistakes people make is to start stimulating the G Spot before the woman is sufficiently aroused. Women have as much erectile tissue as men; it is just distributed differently - among the G Spot, the clitoris, the labia and the pelvic floor. It also takes longer to become engorged. Stimulating the G Spot before arousal has created a cushion that will cause the urethra to be pressed directly against the pubic bone. This sensation is irritating at best and can often be quite painful. The best way to avoid any irritation is to give her a lot of external genital massage or oral sex so that she has at least one clitoral orgasm before you begin exploring internally.
It's important have plenty of water- or silicon-based lube within reach. You may also want to place a bath towel under her. Ask her if she is ready before your begin to insert your middle finger (once you've located the G Spot, you may find that stimulating her with two fingers is more effective, but this depends on the individual). When she indicates that she is, gently rest your fingertip on the opening of her vulva and feel if her body is opening and pulling you inward. Follow her direction. Once inside, allow your hand to rest as she takes a few deep breaths; observe her responses, respiratory rate, skin tone, and the texture of the inside of her vagina. Developing the capacity to observe your partner is one of the keys to becoming a better lover, and maintaining your focus is particularly important when stimulating her G Spot.
It is important to note that this area is more responsive to pressure than it is to friction, which is why conventional intercourse is not the best way to stimulate it. Thus, when you begin to explore, you should allow your hand to remain still as you make small movements with your finger. It is best to do this by extending your finger and gradually drawing it toward the palm of your hand. You should discover a ridge that feels more taut and bumpy than the rest of the vagina; when you feel it, you'll have found her G Spot, and the movement of your finger will stimulate it.
You may find that your partner likes a great deal of pressure. If so, you may need to engage your upper arm and shoulder to stimulate her effectively. Again, note that your movement should be up and down and not in and out. It can also help to have her apply pressure just above her pubic bone downward into her abdominal wall. This will sandwich her G spot between your hand and hers; many women this find very pleasurable.
If she encounters sensations she is not accustomed to, it is best stop and allow her to take a few breaths, as you keep your finger stationary. Our brains and nervous systems often need a moment or two to recognize that a new sensation is a pleasurable one.
She may also feel an urge to bear down, as if she has to urinate. This is the muscular motion that accompanies the female ejaculatory response, but it is not urination. She can test this by going to the bathroom beforehand. While it is not clear that all women can produce ejaculate, G Spot stimulation can lead to wonderful, new orgasmic responses and can be a delightful addition to your sexual repertoire.
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