Ladies, if you've ever used stress as a reason not to have sex, you might want to reconsider. A recent
study performed in the Netherlands found that the area of the brain linked to anxiety actually switches
off during orgasm. So the next time you come home from a rough day and are feeling all anxious, you might
just want to hit the sheets alone or with a partner!
| Silent Seduction Loud sex can be fun ... really fun. But have you and your lover ever tried to seduce one another in total silence? You might be surprised how sexy it can be to try not to make a sound. The next time you have a romantic rendezvous, before you ever touch, agree that your whole lovemaking session will be silent. Then the fun begins. Tempt and tease each other with extended foreplay, kissing and touching the spots you know really get a rise out of one another. By the time you actually have intercourse, you'll probably be ready to burst from the added anticipation of having to control your reactions to such pleasure. |
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Well Chosen Words Body image can play a big part in how women feel in the bedroom -- and every woman wants to feel sexy! So if you want to stir up excitement in your romantic relationship, try giving your ladylove a single sweet compliment. Studies have shown that giving just a few words of praise to a woman who is feeling insecure can dramatically improve how she feels about her appearance -- and thus how she feels in the bedroom! |
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Podcast Passion Here's a sexy tip for the more technologically advanced folks out there. iPods are handy for so many things, from listening to your favorite songs and books on tape, to even watching video. Now we have a sexy new idea for this techie tool. Make an audio file of a sexy greeting or even your own climax for your lover and add it to their iPod. Then when they go away on a trip, you can send them off with a little secret kit packed with lube, a vibrator or sleeve, and the sultry sound of your voice. |
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Dress the Part Do you have an outfit in your closet that you put on when you want to feel your most sexy and desirable? If not, go get one! Clothes help you communicate the sexual you. They don't have to be tight or overtly sexual. They just need to make you feel great. Because when you're feeling alluring and in control of the image that you're putting out to the world -- and particularly the object of your desire -- it helps you to feel that much more erotic when you take those same clothes off! |
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Take A Ride The next time you and your sweetie are out for a leisurely drive admiring the scenery, you can greatly increase the day's erotic potential by pointing out places that you'd like to make love. If you're driving though the countryside, every time you pass a green field, point out the exact tree under which you'd like your lover to take you. If you're in the city, make sultry suggestions about hidden alleyways, darkened buildings or even the public square. Let your imagination run wild. By the time you park the car, amorous adventures will likely ensue. |
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Come Hither Clothing On those days when you're dying to have sex but don't want to ask for it, use another method of communication: clothing signals. Create a code between you and your lover that when one of you dons a certain piece of clothing, it means you want to have sex. It might be a scarf, a sweater, or a simple T-shirt. Why not make it a piece of clothing that your partner likes to remove? Creating this kind of clothing code can add a playful note to requesting sex and make it easy for both partners to initiate lovemaking. And as a side benefit, it will make getting dressed in the morning a whole lot more interesting! |
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A Classified Affair Even with easy access to email and cell phones, many of us don't take the time to communicate sexy thoughts with our partners. Try shaking things up in a few ways by putting your next sensual communication in an unexpected--and public--place: the classifieds! Try placing a sexy classified ad in the paper that only your partner will be able to understand. Tell your partner that morning to pick up the paper and to look for it. Give only a few hints. If your partner comes back home with the classified ad in hand, a sexy reward is to be expected. |
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A Tisket, A Tasket, A Little Sexy Basket Introducing a sensual product into a relationship can sometimes be a little intimidating. So here's one way to make it easier. First off, pick a toy that's attractive and nonthreatening (bigger doesn't always mean better). Choose something a little stylish. Then, create a basket filled with your lover's favorite things, such as chocolate, wine, cookies, any small treats that will delight them. By pairing the new toy with your lover's favorite things and offering it in a beautiful way, you'll likely arouse their curiosity and get the reception you were hoping for! |
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The Ties That Bind For many people, the idea of introducing S & M into their sexual repertoire can be a little intimidating. But know that dominant and submissive sex play needn't be of the extreme, "whips and chains" variety. In fact, introducing some light S & M into your sex life can actually improve your communication as a couple, because communication is the key. Before trying any play of this kind, talk about it together first. Make sure both of you know and are excited by whatever you agree to try. For a first time, you may simply want to experiment by taking turns restraining one another with a silk scarf or other light tie and exploring one another's bodies using the hands, mouth, or a delicate prop like a feather. Talk together afterward about what the experience was like for both of you. S & M might not be so scary after all! |
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Don't Be So Serious When was the last time you laughed during sex? Not AT your partner, of course, just in full-on sensual joy? Due to lack of time and stress and just life, it's easy to forget that sex is FUN! Everything about it is rife with hilarity, including those inevitably embarrassing moments, so instead of pretending they don't happen, revel in the ridiculousness of them. Not only will it relax you both, it will show your partner you have the confidence to laugh at yourself--and what's sexier than that? |
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Increase Your Carnal IQ If you and your partner have trouble talking about sex, try easing into the topic by playing a game together. Set aside a date evening for "Sex Trivia Night." If you're feeling really bold, you could even invite friends over to play. flash cards contain all kinds of fun Q & A that not only increase your carnal IQ but also get you talking about sexual topics outside of the bedroom. It's erotic and educational, too! |
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Slap and Tickle Looking for something new to add to your sexual repertoire? Indulging your lover (or being indulged) in a light spank during love play can arouse you both even more, not only because it's a bit naughty, but also the action brings blood to the surface of the skin, creating a tingly sensation in the nether regions. It also develops a new level of trust between you and your partner that will keep communication open and allow you to get even closer. Keep in mind that it's important to let your partner know how hard or soft to spank and to have an agreed-upon strategy of expressing those desires during sex play. And if you alternate your spanks with gentle caresses and soothing rubs, no one will emerge saddle-sore! |
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Phoning It In Looking to connect with a long-distance lover, or longing for someone who is just across town? Initiating phone sex doesn't have to be complicated. Your opening line can be as simple as the old favorite, "What are you wearing?" As the conversation continues, don't worry yourself about saying things just the right way. Let your imagination lead you. Often you'll find that in the right tone of voice, almost anything you say can sound supremely sexy! |
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Talk Dirty To Me There are all sorts of different ways to talk dirty to your partner before, during and after sex. Before sex, to make your partner really hot, try: "I've been fantasizing about your hot, naked body all day." Or, "You are so sensual and sexy; I want you." To coach them to hit all the right spots during, try one-line instructions, such as "Softer," "Harder," "Slower," "Perfect," or "Oh! yeah!" After sex, to show your appreciation, try: "That was the most amazing sex I've ever had" or, "When can we do THAT again?" |
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Your Own Intimate Code Make up secret code phrases for the sexual activities you like to share with your partner. Not only does it help open up communication without having to talk dirty, but when you're out in public, you can hint at what you'd like to do when you get home. Try making up sex codes with common activities. Here are some examples to get your creative juices flowing:
- "Let's bake some cookies."
- "I saw a raccoon today."
- "I took the bus to work." |
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Take the Lead Teach your partner exactly how you like to be touched by placing your hand over theirs and guiding them to your pleasure spots. You can turn your partner on with your voice while showing them exactly what excites you by whispering words to describe how you like being touched, such as "softer," "harder," "lighter," or, "Just like that." Show your appreciation with works like "Oh, yeah," "That's so hot," and "Oh, baby." Too shy (or aroused) to talk? Use moans and breathing to guide them. |
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Pick a Card, Any Card Write down several of your favorite sexual fantasies or positions on separate pieces of paper, including things you've never done with a partner but have always wanted to try. Have your partner do the same. Fold them all up and put them in a special box, then, when you two are in the mood, pick one out and play! |
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Meet Again for the First Time Pretend that you and your partner or spouse have never met before and are just seeing each other for the first time. You can either re-enact the first time you ever met or you can "meet" in a different way altogether. For instance, you might want to be extra flirtatious, but then play hard-to-get after the initial introduction. Or you can try using made-up first names and life stories to make it seem even more new and exciting. The better you can act, the more fun your intimacy will be later. |
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Explore Fantasies Write down a hot story or several starring you and your lover. Ask your partner to do the same. Put each fantasy in a sealed envelope and trade them. The next time you are apart you can each read a pleasant surprise -- and really look forward to seeing each other again. |
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I Read It Online Ever wanted to try something but didn't know how to bring it up with your partner? Tell them you "read something interesting online" and insert your fantasy! |
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Naughty Reading Try reading erotica out loud to each other before bedtime. You'll either have sweet dreams or you'll stay up a little later. |
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Hidden Pics It may sound like a scene out of a movie, but nothing gets your lover as aroused as pulling out the naked photo of you that you hid in their briefcase or purse in the middle of the day and getting a hot little surprise. |
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Detailed Narration Next time you're having sex with your partner, describe to them what you're doing with your mouth and your hands while you're doing it. |
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Erotic Snail Mail Write an erotic story about you and your lover and send it to them in the mail. It'll be the best piece of mail they've ever gotten! |
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